I was on a bb for a while (linked to my then-ISP, and we also had in-person meetups) where we had to have our 'real'/legal/billing names visible to other users to be able to use the ISP or bb.
We all knew this in advance, and when we posted we knew anyone on the bb/ISP could identify us as US. A subset of us also saw each other in person regularly though, and two of my closest local friends are people I've met through there (plus a lot of other good acquaintances).
I feel like that was a special case though, where things were spelled out in advance and we'd all agreed to them, and we knew it was in part a conscious effort to make sure we all took responsibility for the things we said and the safety of others.
I feel like, my identity is context-dependent - just b/c one person knows who I am doesn't mean I want them to post my full name, and I'll ask people not to if they do. How and where I identify myself is in general up to me, and I appreciate it if others can respect my boundaries. I don't always get other people's boundaries right, and I do make my best effort to listen to feedback.
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Date: 2009-03-04 08:46 am (UTC)We all knew this in advance, and when we posted we knew anyone on the bb/ISP could identify us as US. A subset of us also saw each other in person regularly though, and two of my closest local friends are people I've met through there (plus a lot of other good acquaintances).
I feel like that was a special case though, where things were spelled out in advance and we'd all agreed to them, and we knew it was in part a conscious effort to make sure we all took responsibility for the things we said and the safety of others.
I feel like, my identity is context-dependent - just b/c one person knows who I am doesn't mean I want them to post my full name, and I'll ask people not to if they do. How and where I identify myself is in general up to me, and I appreciate it if others can respect my boundaries. I don't always get other people's boundaries right, and I do make my best effort to listen to feedback.